Instead, the priority of their relationship becomes planning the wedding day.
This can make it nearly impossible to stop and deal with any character flaws that might arise.
I was not a believer of making a list but, after having a conversation with my Pastor one night when He asked me if I knew what my deal breakers were I wrote mine out. Well, many counterfeits came into my life over the course of my single years, and I can say it was having a list of the non-negotiable things that helped me say no when they poked their head up.
Best of all, a pre-engagement counselor can detect problem areas that could destroy their future.
Pursuing pre-engagement counseling does not mean that anything is necessarily wrong with a relationship.
To avoid this dilemma, urge dating couples whom you know to visit a trained, Christian counselor who can help examine all aspects of their relationship.
A counselor can ask the important character questions that couples may have forgotten.
A major factor was pre-engagement counseling, which I strongly recommend for any single adult who is involved in a serious dating relationship.
Yet, there’s a big difference between pre-engagement counseling and pre-marital counseling. Once an engagement ring sits on a woman’s finger, a dating couple usually loses any remaining objectivity about their relationship.In Song of Solomon 4:9 we enter into the middle of a romantic moment of two lovebirds, by Rob Eagar states, “God created each of us as individuals with different likes and dislikes according to our personality and DNA.” He then goes on to state, “One way to assist in the dating process is to know what you like.” This is a great thought because many young adults DO NOT know what they like, or better put what they WANT in a future spouse (inside & out).I believe this is one of the answers to how the lover guy was able to fall in love with the beloved girl with one glance of her eyes, because he saw her, and what he saw he had been waiting for(inside & out).Initially, it was a source of frustration because we didn’t appreciate what the other person wanted to do. Fortunately, the counselor revealed this issue to help us become more sensitive to each other.Rather than fight about our free time, we learned to value what the other person prefers.I entered the church that evening with God’s peace inspiring my steps.