You’re mistaken in thinking that men are going to improve. It’s to become the kind of woman who UNDERSTANDS men, ATTRACTS men, KEEPS men happy, and CHOOSES good men. And no, it’s no different than how James needs to learn to attract, understand, and connect with women in order to keep them happy.
Until he does, all he’s going to do is complain about YOU, and how unfair you are to him.
In other words, most of my men are the one you should be dating in real life – the kind that are open to learning and growth and are willing to spend thousands of dollars to learn how to better connect with women.
The question is whether you are going to be like James and continue to blame the opposite sex for everything. You don’t think there’s something wrong with you if you don’t know how to play the Mozart Clarinet Concerto right off the bat.Evan, how about a corny analogy here: It sounds like enrolling in dating coaching is a lot like learning to play an instrument. You find someone who is a good teacher (good coach) and learn techniques to make you a better musician. And so it should be with learning how to be effective in relationships. No one would attempt to be a clarinet teacher if they couldn’t play clarinet themselves.I’ve mentioned before that several years ago, I completely stopped dating Russian women.I’ve discussed the general reasons, but I don’t think I’ve ever given specifics as to why I made this decision.And dating coaching isn’t telling you where the “quality” women hang out. And the not-so-subtle reason I shared this story with you is to ask you to reflect on whether you have anything in common with James. Are you frustrated that men don’t take the time to get to know you?
After 12 weeks of coaching with me, you know who’s going to be the same? As such, the ONLY thing we can do is change how YOU’RE approaching dating. ” James paused for a second, gritted his teeth, and said, “I don’t want to change very much. Do you get bent out of shape when men IGNORE you online, DON’T FOLLOW UP after dates, and generally seem to want the PERFECT woman?“James” tells me that he’s 30 years old, living in Seattle, working in IT. A little angry, perhaps, but I’m used to getting clients who aren’t too happy with the fact that they’re reaching out to a dating coach.James tells me that after focusing on his career for most of his 20’s, he’s been dating intently for the past year. It seems that whenever he goes out with women, they’re all so SHALLOW.Secondly, I have zero experience dating women in Russia/FSU who actually live in Russia/FSU.100% of my experience is with Russian women living in the West.I’m willing to concede that Russian women actually living in Russia are different than Russian women living in the USA, but based on the many stories I’ve heard, I really doubt it.