As a Dating and Relationship Coach for Women over 40, I’ve seen (and done) it all when it comes to online dating.I’ve seen how rewriting a profile, making it more positive, more aspirational, and less demanding can help the right guys find their way to your inbox. My husband and I met and married when I was 47 and I’m now spending the happiest years of my life. Bobbi invites you to join her Grownup Girls’ Night Out!
Finding love is always challenging, but it’s especially hard in a city with tunnel-vision-like focus on appearance for someone who doesn’t match the high standards set for beauty in Los Angeles.
LA is the national headquarters for the super-fit and the stunningly beautiful.
It’s too generic, common and, frankly says nothing about you that’s interesting.
Instead, be more specific and paint a picture for him.
Because, let’s face it, the odds are not in our favor, ladies.
As we get older the man-to-woman ratio moves more and more lopsided.
You can go on to say that you look forward to a relationship, but really…where can a man possibly see time for himself in that picture?
Also, avoid these statements: “I don’t need a man, but it would be nice to have one in my life.” Or, “I’ve been fine all these years without a man but I’ll make room for the right one .” Men, just like women, don’t want to feel like an accessory in someone else’s life.
Some statistics show that for every man over 50, there are up to 5 women; over 60, ten women, and so on. The days of sitting back and waiting for anything incoming are over.
If you want to be noticed and rise to the top, it pays to create the best possible profile and keep it polished and shiny.
Does your profile sound like someone who likes to have a good time? “I’ve tried online dating before and it didn’t work, but I’m trying it again.” Or “I’ve had a lot of challenges and hardships over the last 20 years and now I’m ready for a change.” Or “I’ve devoted my life to my children and caring for my elderly parents…now it’s my turn.” Again, this all may be true, but it’s important to let your prospective match know that spending time with you will be enjoyable…otherwise why would they want to contact you?