Take it from someone whose new “friend” ran up the bar tab while keeping her purse hidden all night: Start with coffee. The sad fact is that some people are just looking for an excuse to go out with especially a naïve chump who will pick up the bill. Case in point: After connecting online and hitting it off over an extended phone conversation, I met a woman for a happy-hour drink.
She was an attractive redhead with a sparkling personality and a great smile.
Just don’t turn your profile into Shakespearian-level prose that in no way reflects who you really are.Here’s a surprise: Some women just look at the pictures!According to the FBI, dating websites are often popular targets for scams perpetrated by offshore criminal networks.While the bureau acknowledges that virtually everyone is at risk, it says Internet scammers pay particular attention to “women over 40 who are divorced, widowed, and/or disabled.” These cyber-criminals create elaborate profiles on singles sites, often with glamorous photos.Things were unfolding beautifully, from similar interests to shared acquaintances.
As our time together was coming to an end, I suggested a second date.
Her response caught me completely off-guard: “You’re a really nice guy, but as a larger woman, I need a larger man.” While “larger” is always open to interpretation, from my perspective, she in no way fit the general definition of the term. She self-identified as such and envisioned herself with a man of more Falstaffian proportions, which I lack. Some of my cyberdates went nowhere, but a few women became trusted friends and confidants.
I’m no longer active on dating sites, but I don’t regret using them.
And guys, before sending a message with even a hint of sexual innuendo, think about what your mother would say, then remember that many of these women mothers, for that matter.
This applies to women in particular, but not exclusively.
Internet dating puts all options on the table, and a growing number of sites cater to the more mature singles crowd.