Know Your Company’s Policy Before the First Date Some companies have very strict rules about relationships, and you should understand those boundaries—and the possible consequences of crossing them.“Of course we know those policies aren’t always adhered to,” says Jacqueline Whitmore, founder of etiquetteexpert.com, “but it certainly should be considered, especially if there’s a policy that says, ‘We won’t hire married couples.'” In other words, assuming you think this relationship could get serious enough to get to the altar, you could end up having to choose between your lover and your livelihood. Of people surveyed by Workplace Options, 57% said they’d opt to protect their career, but 43% said they would lean towards leaving their jobs.“You’re creating a climate where people are going to see bias whether there really is bias or not.” Relationships with your peers are generally more acceptable—assuming they’re unhitched.
If things turn south, the last thing you’ll want is someone gossiping about your private life or what you said about your boss after a particularly tough performance review.Also, consider how much you’d continue having to work with the person after breaking up—or even how regularly you’re likely to run into him or her at work functions or around the water cooler.Dana Brownlee, president of professional training development company Professionalism Matters, advises against initiating a romance with your manager, or, likewise, with anyone who reports to you directly or indirectly.“If you’re a manager, you should be held to a higher standard,” she says.But here’s the thing: Whether or not there are policies forbidding them, office relationships happen.
A recent survey by Career Builder found that nearly 40% of employees admitted to having a romantic relationship with a co-worker.
Perhaps that makes sense given the amount of time we spend at work: In an office relationship, you can relate to the struggles someone faces from 9 to 5, says Brownlee.
That’s not easy to do with a spouse or partner who works in a different field.
“It might be smarter for your career development to consider smaller changes instead of radical shifts,” she says.
Maybe there’s an opportunity to switch to a different team or project, or to get some needed experience in a different department.
After firing CEO Dov Charney last month, American Apparel decided to update its company code of ethics with stricter guidelines regarding interoffice relationships.