Stop being yourself, it was cute then, he can’t stand it now. You will not have a share in your husband’s property while his parents are alive.
You will have to wait until they expire; with your luck, they might just outlive you. You must do all the household chores yourself; do not expect any help from your husband. It is your absolute duty to make sure the house is well looked after and that his mother does not have to move an inch! Do not ever suspect him of extramarital affairs; do not let him know that he has bad breath and that he snores.
In other areas of life, we gesture toward valuing things beyond the superficial. Some older men have this secret other option, whereby they get to opt out of the system: When they acquire enough money or power, they can basically trade that capital for the thing women have that’s valued by society: youth and beauty.
The exact ages and differentials vary, but each one reinforces one important point: Women get less valuable as they age, while men just get to enjoy the ride.Older men who date much younger women make the transactional, hierarchical nature of romance explicit and reveal the extent to which men and women are still playing by very different rulebooks.As a mother-in-law in Pakistan, she also holds the divine right of telling you exactly what she thinks of your relationship with your husband (her son first) and will offer all kinds of unsolicited advice, whether you want it or not. Of course, you must never let him feel like you are unhappy because then he will get hurt and being blinded by the pain of the ‘unfair pressure’ you put on him, will be left with no choice but to divorce you – possibly via a text saying, And tadaa, you’re divorced. To marry this highly eligible bachelor you must impress him. Apparently they never had any of those things before his highness met you. You, dear ladies, will be his property and he will not ‘allow’ you to hang out with male friends (only immodest girls do that).It is just part and parcel of the legacy of being a Pakistani mother-in-law. No, not with your good looks, charm or personality, this pauper… But don’t take this lightly at all, there can, and have been, huge fights over dowry; sometimes, in a rage of greed they burn you or even kill you for not bringing that last toothpick left in your house! You will have to live with over a dozen other people in a small, cramped house. Not only do you live with his parents, you share space with his three other brothers and their families. Do not pester him into letting you go for a movie with your friends because this may result in him calling you all sorts of names, from dogs and cats to mothers and fathers – or, he will go crying to his mother, who will sympathise with all her heart and this little tête-à-tête will result in him texting you, 6.Let him do whatever he wants, do not speak without his permission, do not react without his permission, in fact, do not breathe without his permission – and you will be fine.
How’s this for kismet: One fateful day in 1966, singer Tony Bennett met and took a photo with a couple after one of his shows.Obviously, if it offends ghosts it would offend his family and that would be a grave sin. Oh you’ve always been like this and he knew you before he married you?Well tough luck sister, that was then and this is now.Every day, there seems to be another outrageous new celebrity coupling announced via pictures of some May-December frolicking: Jennifer Lawrence sharing a lollipop with Darren Aronofsky; Sean Penn dating Vincent D’Onofrio’s daughter; Mel Gibson having his ninth child with his 26-year-old girlfriend; Mary-Kate and Ashley Olsen double-dating with their 47-year-old and 58-year-old respective beaus; Leonardo Di Caprio’s sending another lady-love packing upon her reaching the ripe old age of 25.Online dating stats bare out that average joes are just as enamored with younger women as their famous counterparts.The reason will probably be as simple as, ‘well that has been the tea brand in the house for years’!