Parents need to treat a brokenhearted youngster’s feelings seriously.
When he’s ready to socialize, he’ll do so without any prompting. “My first year in college, I fell madly in love with this girl named Elyse. I couldn’t imagine ever being with anyone else, and I thought she felt the same way about me. I used to spy on her around campus; some nights I’d stand outside her dorm just to see if she walked in the front door with anybody.
“One day, out of the blue, she told me that our relationship was getting too serious, and that she wanted to date other people. My friends couldn’t stand to be around me, and I don’t blame them!
”) and, if applicable, divorce (“Dad, how can two people love each other for years and years, then stop being in love? Having an imperfect romantic résumé yourself does not disqualify you from initiating this conversation.
You might say, “I haven’t always made the wisest decisions when it comes to love, but I’ve promised myself that the next time I become involved with someone special, I won’t settle for anything less than a healthy, honest relationship.
They march off en masse to the mall or to the movies, or join a gang tossing a Frisbee on the beach.
Don’t confuse group dating with double-dating or triple-dating.When you’re older and ready to start dating, I hope that you will do the same. ” Adults generally take a cynical view of teenage romance, as if it were a chemical imbalance in need of correction. “You know what they’re like when their hormones start raging.” A boy and a girl float down the street holding hands, dizzy in love, and all parents see is testosterone and estrogen out on a date.Just look at the words used to describe affection between two young people: “infatuation,” “crush,” “puppy love.” If it feels like love to the two puppies, isn’t it love?Teenagers haven’t yet learned how resilient the heart is.The first time they experience romantic rejection, the sadness can seem bottomless.To reiterate a point made earlier, it wasn’t all that long ago that many couples got married in their teens.