And you may be trying your best, but you’re not truly maximizing your potential. Which is like saying you’re going on a diet by cutting out sugar, but continuing to eat large portions of fried foods.In all likelihood, despite your efforts, I’m betting your profile can be better, your photos can be better, your responses to men could be better, your initial emails to men could be better, and your choices in men could be better. My recommendation – if you haven’t done it already – is to go through every word in Finding the One Online. You don’t have to quit online dating to meet men in real life.
Worse, they’re hypocritical about it, because they don’t understand why the vast majority of younger women won’t go for them.
And yet, the fastest growing segment for online dating is the 50 market. More people have computers and are aware of someone who found love online.
I assume the reason for this is they can get younger women to respond to them, so why would they go for me when they have a chance with the 45 year-old version of me?
If their first wife was their age, like a college sweetheart or whatever, they probably feel entitled to a newer model, so to speak. It’s frustrating, not to mention depressing and more than a little humiliating.
I’m not ashamed of my age and hiding it seems phony.
When I meet men in person in my daily life, I get a better response because they see the whole me, hear my voice, get a sense of what I’m like, all before they know how old I am, meaning I can be defined by other qualities.I initiate contact with men in an age-range of about 3 years younger up to about 8 years older than myself.The potential matches that the site sends me are age appropriate for me, but when I look at the age-range that those men desire, (usually 35-50) I often move past them, knowing I can’t compete with women in their desired range, even though many of those men are as much as 5-8 years older than me!I agree with everything Evan says and based on your advice Evan Ive tweaked my profile with your suggestions e.g. Most importantly I agree your photos have to be great.I chose to adjust my age down a few years since I was being eliminated by what seems like half the men my age when I put my real age. I’ve noticed after my last birthday (I turned 54 in June) that the response I get on has dropped to almost nothing.