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When a relationship is over you may think you have to go through a process involving steps or stages that have to do with loss. You have an abundance of emotional memories about all of your past relationships that later can be activated, regardless of whether or not you have moved on.For example, imagine driving past a park where you had walked with an ex-partner.You may wonder why you stayed in the relationship so long or you may be guilty about leaving.Worse yet, you may be angry about all the things you tolerated that were wrong in the relationship, wishing you could turn back the clock and do something differently.For example, you might withdraw and hide what you feel from others.
You might hide what you feel from yourself with the avoidance that is found in alcohol, drugs, or highly stimulating activities.
Hanging on to the reminders of what was good can keep you attached to the relationship.
What’s not working in a relationship may seem obvious to you when you want to get out of it.
You can’t erase your emotional memories so maybe you can not expect yourself to completely “get over” the last relationship in order to move on. Instead you have to figure out what you are going to do when your emotional memories are triggered, especially immediately following a break-up.
Often such memories can keep a person stuck and make them hesitant to move on.
Your regrets may lead you to believe that you stayed in the relationship because you have low self-esteem. Many people keep trying, instead of leaving, because they are caring and empathic people who tend to make excuses for their partner.