You’ll need a lot of patience and will-power to overcome the drawbacks of dating a divorcee.But if you’ve found yourself someone great, this really shouldn’t be so difficult.HOWEVER, keep in mind that kids can be very protective and even cruel! Don’t boss them around or act overly ‘motherly’, but do show interest and encourage them in the things they’re good at. Being ‘dad’s new girlfriend’ takes time getting used to, and they’ll probably resent you for taking their mom’s place. And don’t be upset if they don’t immediately like you. Also, keep in mind that the younger the children are, the easier it will be for you to start bonding with them.
Remember that mention of the divorced dad who swept me off my feet?
All I can say is this: Listen to your gut, listen to your gut, listen to your gut -- no matter what others think and how good things seem on the surface.
Being around his kids can be a plus when it gives you the chance to experience what life with children is like – without having to have them yourself!
If you already have kids, this can provide a great way to bond with him – the children are something you have in common.
While I highly recommend dating divorced men -- dare I admit that I've done so on two continents?
-- I would be remiss if I didn't also share some cautions to keep in mind.
Your initial reaction to the idea of dating a divorced man might simply be – No thanks! The advantage of dating someone who has already been “down-the-aisle” is that in many aspects of our lives – we make mistakes, learn from them and try NOT to repeat them in the future.
It may be extremely difficult for him to learn to trust again. In most cases, his ex-wife is someone who will – in some way, shape or form! Whether they share kids, he pays her alimony or simply because she was a large part of his life…you have to accept the fact she is likely to show up from time-to-time.
Don’t get upset when she’s around (whether physically or in his thoughts).
Just remind yourself that she is part of his reality that you can’t change.
If you're interested in a divorced man with kids, you may be wondering how to navigate your relationship with the man as well as his kids.