And I do call occasionally and it’s always a good conversation so maybe I’m blowing the whole thing out of proportion, but I feel like if he doesn’t call that maybe he’s not thinking about me, or that a boyfriend ‘should’ call more because he wants to, but I know not to get into ‘should’ thinking!! 1) Should I just call him more if I want to talk and not worry about it seeming aggressive or overbearing cuz I am his girlfriend anyway and not one that would call 5 times a day anyway, we’re talking once every couple days or 2) should I should just suck it up and continue to not call him that much, knowing guys need their space and their cave and try not to let past insecurities get in my way but just continue to be the goddess and enjoy what I do have with this great guy or 3) can I just talk to him about this without sounding needy?Maybe it will be like other issues that I was afraid to bring up, but we had a good conversation from so I don’t know why I’m afraid other than I don’t want to do anything ungoddesslike and screw up this good relationship I finally have.
As the fear of losing him as opposed to the joy of having him around. If you cruise down the highway thinking “I really don’t want to crash”, what’s going to happen? And if you think “I really don’t want to come off as needy and drive him away”, you are probably going to come off as needy and drive him away. So instead of thinking “I don’t want to lose him” (which is the root of why you want to call him, needily, and also why you don’t want to call him, so you don’t seem needy, which is still neediness), think, “Gosh, I really like my man and I’d like to speak to him and convey to him how great he is and how much I appreciate him and love talking to him!
” In fact, I find it interesting that you should be worried that your calling him is a burden ever happen?
Similarly, if every time that you call him you make him feel like a trillion bucks, there’s really no upper limit to how often you can call him. She does crave companionship and connection — sometimes more than her man.
So if you or any of the other ladies reading this have wondered whether you’re erring on the side of calling too much, ask yourself whether the energy of your calling is one of neediness, desperation or . So once you’re in a committed relationship, don’t be surprised if you’re doing most of the calling. That’s the whole point of real intimacy: the ability to be vulnerable with each other.
Sure, you’ll prime the pump with a hair flip and provocative look, a quick text or email, but he has to come to you.
2) In a relationship, train your man by setting expectations.’ when I’m in a situation that hurts or annoys me and this goddess-thinking prevents me from acting needy or overly emotional!Your advice has helped me tremendously in being able to finally a great guy!! We have been exclusive for four months and just recently went on a fabulous trip.As in, “We had a great first date — why hasn’t he called me yet (SMHWTMH)? That’s reserved for authentic guffaws and funny cat pictures.So, the brief answer to your burning question is that you’re overthinking it (surprise! I mean, your letter’s twists and turns and decisions and revisions that reverse themselves make a Six Flags roller coaster seem like a stroll down a grocery aisle.Anyway your help would be greatly appreciated :)) Goodness gracious, Jill!