The partner, then, is dropped/discarded, coming to the sudden and shocking realization that the other, the partner to has narcissistic qualities, is not capable of true intimacy/love, and really exhibits a limited capacity for emotional connectedness/bonding (Brown, 2013).The partner who has exhibited narcissistic personality traits, who was once a knight in shining armor, is now a mere fantasy, because he or she acted through mind control and brainwashing (Brown, 2013).
Well, studies show (Brown, 2013) that people with narcissism market themselves in attractive, deceptive packages.They may present with a swagger, intense eye contact, false bravado/charm, knock-your-socks-off seduction (often learned by neurolinguistic programming (NLP) programs or online seduction programs), swift pacing of rushing the relationship into commitment/cohabitation/marriage/business partnership, promising a future together (which is later discovered to be a lie), intense sexual chemistry, love-bombing (repetitive texting, emailing, phone calls), or romancing the target excessively (flowers, etc).When I first heard the term narcissist as a graduate student, I had a hard time labeling someone with such a label.I pride myself on being a strengths-focused therapist, in direct opposition of any of such disempowering diagnostic nomenclature.Studies suggest that 1% of the general population (2-16% of psychiatric population) has narcissistic personality, while an even greater number exhibit typical traits of narcissism (Brown, 2013).
In addition, although 75% of people with narcissism are found to be male, women can also be narcissists.
For further study, please refer to the resources listed at the end of the article, as the subject is quite vast.
So just what traits does someone with narcissism have, and what does that person look like in the early stages of dating?
Their partners have successfully seduced and hooked them into relationships. He or she may vanish for hours or days on end, or gaslight (confuses the reality of) a partner.
But suddenly, the individual with narcissism begins to reveal traits of lying, future-faking, and Dr. This person becomes emotionally abusive and detaches from the partner, extracting narcissistic supply in the process.
Just because initially there is a highly seductive “zing” quality to the attraction does not mean that the dating partner is healthy.