That is especially true if the new relationship can threaten the other partner’s potential access to resources or loss of what they have.
If the separated man isn’t sure about reconnecting with his partner and a new relationship would make that option far less likely, he may not want to lose those choices so chooses to keep his options open by separating those two worlds.
Situations differ just as people do, and depend on: As for divorce, circumstances loom large here as well: Cooperative co-parenting and an absence of financial hardship make dating a relative breeze, whereas a vengeful ex or decimated bank account results in anything but... Here are several advantages to dating a widower: Consider the Man, Consider the Marriage Just because a man is widowed, that doesn't mean he was a "perfect" husband or had a perfect marriage.We may romanticize the relationship he had with his wife - so many TV shows and movies encourage it - but we need to remember that narcissists are trouble and they can be widowed, too.People in unstable situations often make in-the-moment decisions that have nothing to do with what they may need or want as time elapses.A newly separated partner is often searching for validation and support and cannot see beyond those needs.It would be easy to assume that the widowed dad has a more challenging path than the divorced dad, dealing with his grief, the kids' grief, and handling it on his own. Just because someone is widowed, that doesn't mean they had a good marriage. They may sort themselves out more quickly than we think or take years to untangle.
Just because a man's spouse dies, that doesn't mean he can't take care of his children. Plenty of Pros in Dating a Widower Having dated both divorced men and widowers, I've noted some differences.If, on the other hand, a couple has been separated for quite a while, have made multiple attempts to reconnect and failed, the partners may have come to the conclusion that divorce is inevitable.When that happens, they may not be as susceptible to any new relationship.Presumably, the widower lost his spouse when the two of them were happy, and the divorced man experienced the termination of his marriage because he and his wife were not. Divorce: Apples and Oranges While widowhood and divorce both involve grieving, we may be comparing apples to oranges when we begin to look more closely.For example, someone divorce because one or both parties no longer wish to be married.Each woman is connected to the man but they are not usually connected to each other. The gamut can run from two women who have known one another in the past, even possibly friends, to total strangers who are now connected to each other only by being attached in some way to the same man.