I think that because I was 18, he had expectations that I would be wild and crazy and open to anything.
There were things that he expected with his party lifestyle that I felt very uncomfortable with, but would ignore my instinct and go along with to make him happy.
However, after the relationship with the significantly older man ended I vowed to only date close to my age again.I think that there is definitely some truth to the "age is just a number" mentality, but having the experience I did, I don't buy it completely. The next time we ran into each other was when I went to interview for a job in the ski resort's lift department, which he happened to be in charge of. I think he can't really find a woman to keep up with him, even in his own age group. The man I dated was essentially an 18-year-old himself when it came to maturity. Her older brother had invited a bunch of the people they worked with at the mountain over and I happened to be there. I think he was attracted to me because I asked him out, and I was able to banter with him off the bat. Woman A: I was working in retail at the time, and he was a customer. He looks younger than he is and is in very good shape.
Woman C: I knew he was older, I just didn't think that he was that much older.
Woman B: I was 23 when we started dating and he was 39. We got back in contact and I realized how much I missed having him in my life. Woman A: Looking back, I think he needed a partner who would tolerate his bullshit if he was to be in a relationship at all.
Woman A: The longest lasting of these relationships started when I was 18 and he was 40. However, we didn't start dating until I was 18 and he was 36. They split up around 2009 and I didn't hear from him for 18 months. Do you think your age was part of the attraction for him?
How did/does the age gap impact your relationship once you were in it?
Woman A: Like most 18-year-olds, I did not have much relationship experience, so it was easier for him to get away with things I would not have tolerated had I had a better sense of what a healthy relationship should feel like. We began dating when I was on winter break during my freshman year in college.
I guess that was the biggest impact on the relationship — I let him mold me into the girl he wanted instead of being who I really was. I don't think they expected it to last because I had never been in a relationship before.