Or more likely, a picture on a dating profile is perceived by women as inherently lower status when compared to the same picture by itself.
Matthew Valentines is an online dating concierge, and executive director at Personal Dating Assistants.
As a Personal Dating Assistant, my team & I have helped hundreds of guys come up with the best dating user names. I've worked with guys who had some of the funniest usernames (Kosher Casanova).
Because the personality types of women found on lean more traditional, with an older user base compared to Okcupid or Po F, I find that names originating from the Provider category play well here; "old fashioned", "gentleman", and "romantic" do well on Match.
Usernames on Okcupid are created when you start a new account.
If you're worried that an otherwise great username sounds too outrageous, or too different from who you really are, try it out on your profile for a test run, and see how women respond. A bit of facial hair never hurts, and the stylish scarf adds a touch panache. (Joe's a stock photo, in case you were wondering)I uploaded Joe's picture to a photo scoring website called photofeeler.
If it really feels cringe inducing, change it later. The stress of not having a cool name you're totally in love with just might motivate your creative energies faster than if you sit on the sidelines, waiting for that perfect username to pop into your head. It's a tool my company uses sometimes, when we can't agree on which photo looks best for one of our members.
Jot down your best ideas, and let them percolate in your mind for a day or 2.
Just like any form of creative writing, sometimes it helps to switch gears and do something else for a while.
If you make your username with plain, generic sounding words, you're going to have a plain, generic sounding user name. The most important quality of an effective dating username is how well it relates to your lead photo.
If you use bold, colorful, imaginative words, you better believe that username is going to pop. Your username and lead photo should compliment each other.
To kick things off, I chose a picture of a guy doing all the right things for a dating photo. It's not perfect, but it's good for gauging general sentiment.
For now, I just want to understand what women's general impression is of this guy. Here's what I got back: Now that we have a baseline understanding of Joe's attractiveness, I made 2 copies of the exact same dating profile, on the 3 biggest dating sites where usernames are still used; Okcupid, Plenty Of Fish, and Match.
New stimulation is proven to change the way the mind thinks.